I am pleased that I do not have absolute power as I am not good enough or wise enough to be trusted with it! I am not in a position to answer all of your questions, however, I do believe that Jesus has absolute power and He is perfect, just, merciful and all knowing. Consequently I will try and give you some responses from a Biblical perspective.

None of us deserves to go to Heaven and to have a relationship with Jesus.. Unless we fall at His feet, seeking forgiveness for the many sins we have committed, we remain selfish and our agendas will be “deviant.” All of us were born with a predisposition to rebel against God and to please ourselves. Unless you ask Jesus to forgive you and to change your life, you as well as all other non Christians will struggle under the curse of sin. Only Jesus can free us from this, as He died for the punishment that we all deserve. He was punished in our place but we need to receive the gift of salvation that He offers.

You, like the rest of mankind, need the love of Jesus. Unless we are forgiven and changed by Him we are all selfish and immoral. We are guilty of different sins: materialism, adultery, failure to believe in Jesus, anger, sexual promiscuity, theft etc…..The most serious of these sins is unbelief and a mocking attitude towards Jesus. If we believe that Jesus is God we will read the Bible, and seek His help and His forgiveness. Without Him we are lost.

Like all people who do not have a relationship with Jesus you are separated from Him by your sins which only He can forgive. With each of us Jesus will wash us clean when we confess that we are wrong. The problem is that most of us want the best of both worlds. We think that we can continue our old lifestyles and have a friendship with Jesus, which gives us peace, joy and a knowledge that we are going to heaven.

The truth is that we need to give up behavior that is contrary to God’s will if we want the privilege of a relationship with Him. For some that means ending a homosexual relationship even though the orientation may still be there. It may mean ending a heterosexual, adulterous relationship or a life of prostitution. Others must turn their backs on other behavior that is contrary to God’s Word.
It seems that for you, to have a relationship with Jesus, you would need to re-look at your complicated gender issues. I understand that the drug that your mother took complicated things but God still created you as a man.He understands your struggles and loves you but ideally you would resume the identity that He gave you. I appreciate that you would need significant help from a Christian counselor to achieve this. If you returned to the sex that God made you, you would be in a position to marry a woman. If you remain as you are, I believe that you should avoid a physical relationship with either a man or a woman, and according to the Bible marriage would not be an option for you.

I am applying God’s standard to your situation. God’s way is hard but right. I believe strongly that Jesus loves you in a way that no one else can. He can remove fear, anxiety and confusion and He can lead you to a great life but you would need to seek His forgiveness. I would encourage you to read the Bible in a modern translation and when you are challenged pray and confess. The most important thing is that you are willing to believe and that you recognize that you, like the rest of us, are not good enough for Him. We need to approach Jesus humbly and honestly.

Please read my blog post about Rahab who was a prostitute. When she believed in God her life was turned around and she became a wonderful woman of faith. There are many examples in the Bible of people being changed by Jesus. Jesus changed me and I am very excited about the love that He gives me. I love my family very much but the love of Jesus is much more powerful and life changing and the Holy Spirit (the invisible presence of Jesus) and the Bible help me with relationships. I hope that you will receive the love and help that Jesus offers.

I am not specialized in helping people facing the challenges of gender identity issues. I do care about your situation and I do know that this life is hard but Jesus can help us get through the challenges. If you are interested in speaking with a Christian who has experience with transsexual life challenges, you might like to call Exodus International for more specific guidance from a Christian perspective: 407-599-6872 or 888-264-0877. They seem to focus on helping homosexuals, but I think that they are experienced in helping transsexuals too.

I wish you all the best and hope that one day soon you will receive the peace that only Jesus can offer.

Sian

May I interject a real life situation. I’d like to hear your guidance on this.

My mother was given a drug to take to lessen the chance of miscarriage and promote healthy babies — that’s what the doctor told her. The drug is Diethylstilbestrol, or DES. In male fetuses, it feminizes the brains of one in five of us ‘DES sons’.

I finally came to terms with this, and realized my choice was transition or die. So, I’m now a male-to-female transsexual who’s had ‘the operation.’ I’ve changed all my legal paperwork and although I still have a male body with XY chromosomes, it has been retrofitted to approximate female anatomy, which is good because if I ever end up in an accident, there will be no ’surprise’ for the first responders.

I ‘pass’ very well, thank you. Only rarely do strangers figure out I was not born this way. Most people have to be told, by me, or, more often, by someone else who just has to ‘drop the bomb.’

All my paperwork has been changed. Legally, I’m female. But I have to find an OB/GYN who can check my prostate during my yearly pelvic exam (yearly mammograms don’t need that level of disclosure.)

So my question to you is — knowing what you know now about me, and assuming for the moment you get absolute power to label me and make determinations on where I can and can’t go —

-Do I marry a man? Or do I marry a woman?

-Which restroom and changing facility do you feel I, a male-to-female transsexual, should use when in public spaces?

-Am I immoral?

-Am I a paedophile?

-Am I tearing down western society in support of a deviant agenda?

-Am I selfish?

I eagerly await your responses;

Hazumu Osaragi